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John
F. Tomczak is the author of Shared Knowledge - Dealing With
Bereavement.
John's passion is to make all Canadians
aware of how hospice societies can help
them and their loved ones at a time
of need.
John
has been recognized for his many
exemplary contributions as a board
member of Victoria Hospice Society and
the Independent Living Housing Society
as well as a founding member of Canada's
first bereavement self help group.
John is
the owner of
bereavement.ca
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A Walking Group Story
By John F. Tomczak
The walking group members come with their own
experiences and stories. It takes a bit of time
but once the people get to know one another and
are comfortable you begin to hear the
stories. Usually what you hear is a lot of
laughter as people slowly come to realize that
so many of life’s experiences are common to
all. Once in a while you hear a conversation
between two people that turns out to be one of
those hilarious stories, while true, is hard to
believe.
I noticed two ladies who were quietly talking to
one another during our refreshment time in a
volunteer’s home. The conversation went from the
weather to when the loved ones died to where
they lived and so on. One of the ladies remarked
that she had gone to Oak Bay High School and
wondered what had happened to the class’ trouble
maker. She went on to say that she actually was
a lot of fun and after taking a bit of time
remembered her name which was Anne. There was a
long pause and then the other lady said, “My God
I thought I recognized you from Oak Bay and I am
Anne.”
The laughter, tears and hugs were a sight to
behold. By this time the entire Walking Group
was conscious that something special was going
on. When the hugging and tears had calmed down I
said, “Come on you two, let us in on all these
tears and hugs.”
Anne said, “I was the class trouble maker and in
fact I was such a pain that I was banished to
Australia to live with my Grandmother. While I
grew up and got over my role as a trouble maker,
I married a very nice man. We were very happy
but when he died I wanted to return to Victoria
and here I am. I remember those fun days at Oak
Bay High and I sure remember my friend here.”
There was another round of tears and hugging and
then Anne’s friend said, “Actually Anne wasn’t
all that bad. She just had to have fun all the
time and needled the teachers now and then. I
missed her and I have never forgotten her in all
these years. I thought sending her to Australia
was a bit much and somewhat like the olden days
when convicts were sent there.”
As one who is always fascinated with numbers; I
have thought about the odds of these two people
meeting under these circumstances. Maybe it is
best not to wonder but rather just enjoy being a
part of such a wonderful story. During the rest
of the walks I noticed they were constantly
together chatting away catching up on the past
years.
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